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When children tend to cook up stories to hide what things could likely get them scolding from their parents, we do have a smile at that cuteness and creativity, but the bottom line remains that the child has uttered a lie.
There is no child who is perfect, not to do what he is not asked to do, nor is there any child who doesn’t lie about it.
It is just that, parents need to be able to find if their child is lying or not, which would help them to help the child leaving this bad habit at an early age.
While telling lies starts with a cheeky smile or a funny face or a laughable silence on being questioned about a broken toy or hitting a younger sibling, the intensity of telling a lie and being serious about it, starts as a bad habit in doing homework usually.
A child with low confidence spins grand tales in an attempt to make an impression in front of others. He tries to kill his low self-esteem with his own stories so that he gets people’s attention and admiration. Such children normally tell events which would not have happened at all or exaggerate a simple happening vividly.
On the other hand, children might lie to stay away from getting attention. A depressed child or a child who is upset about something might fake it with a false headache or owe it falsely to lack of sleep the previous night when asked about his bad mood.
And there are impulsive lies which they don’t mean to say it intentionally. They just utter it, mostly forgetfully. But again, telling lies can become a habit soon, a bad one. So, the parents have to make the child understand and help him get out of it.
Telling lies could easily pave a way for making other mistakes further, so it is important a parent needs to realize if her child is telling the truth or not. As a parent, it is absolutely necessary to watch the child’s activities, able to understand the difference in his behaviour, if any, comprehend and act accordingly.
Now, let us look at some of the signs/behaviour that could tell us if the child is lying or not. A mother’s intuitions rarely go wrong, she can make an easy guess about her child when something is amiss.
Children avoid eye contact when they start to tell lies. They wouldn’t be able to look into their mother’s eyes while talking. But this is only at the early stage of this poor habit, later they overcome their guilt and would more confidently tell lies as they talk other normal things. Hence, the parents, especially a mother would be able to notice this difference and it is important the child is advised against it at the earliest.
Children get into defensive mode arguments with the parents, mostly along with irrelevant details and/or contradictory statements. This happens when they lie and you have not bought their theory. Such behaviour happens mostly with the teen kids, who tend to imagine that they are too smart for the world, especially the parents.
Children keep saying the same thing again and again, strongly reiterated a statement, you can easily guess that there is something fishy and it could easily be a lie. When the child starts to tell lies, he wouldn’t know to go about it when further questioned and is inclined to repeat the same statement again and again. Catch hold of him and help him overcome this cheap habit.
Touching or wiping the face, like that of wiping action, rolling the eyes, fishy laughter or a stupid smile while talking is a give away that they are lying about something.
Tensed or perplexed or confused expression and/or wiggly body language definitely reveals the child is up to something not so right.
A simple, straight answer is “A Happy Home”.
Anything and Everything of a child starts from his home. The quality of living at home imbibes the quality of character in the child.
Telling lies is a habit which should be curbed at an early stage. Many chances are there that the child as he grows up, from different relationships and experiences, might learn a lot things and grow as a better individual. Nevertheless, it is important as a parent to have a watch over the child’s behaviour and teach him the right way of living.